It seems like the more and more I pay attention to people the more and more it seems like people are conformists. Like, you know when you're in a large group and everyone seems to like the same things and do the same things and wear the same things and listen to the same things and UGH! You get me? And anything even slightly out of the ordinary is defined as "Weird"? What the heck is "weird" mean anyway? What exactly is NORMAL? I don't see how we were all made different but everyone seems to have this weird set of guidlines to follow, an unspoken rulebook of things that are "normal". What's so cool about conforming anyway?
Please if you want set up a list of things and explain this whole wanna be the same as everybody else mindstate because I just don't get it at all.
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I don't think everyone wants to conform. I think everyone doesn't want to be an outcast, so by conforming they are guaranteeing themselves acceptance. I think everyone has a fear of loneliness. I mean that's what drives people crazy before anything else when they're stuck on a desert island: lack of human interaction. If you saw Castaway, than that's the perfect example. After all he created Wilson. Basically, we all have loneliness complexes, and so we feel that by being like everyone else we won't be alone.
ReplyDeletePeople with low self esteem may conform to be liked. But like Carina says in her comment, I don't believe everyone wants to conform, but do I believe people do it? Heck yeah. Perfect example is trends. Fashion trends, movie trends, speech trends. I know people that speak in slang just because their friends do, and if they speak proper they'll be looked down upon. Ironically enough, they'll be labeled "weird" for it. I agree with you for the most part, Jasmine. I hate when you find something that is totally YOU, like a funky necklace or a way of talking and someone just steals your uniqueness! It's easier to just not care what people think is "normal" and just be yourself, I know it's probably easier said then done but if you are truly at one with yourself you will be happy. People will like you for who you are, as cliche as that sounds. But as long as you keep caring what others think of you, you'll never be happy for as long as you live. Many people feel they won't be liked for who they are, where they come from and what they're interested in and I think it's true most people feel the need to be liked or needed by people, I have to admit that that is a good feeling, but how real would the "like" and "need" be if you aren't being yourself?
ReplyDeleteI understand what you are saying but I don't everyone wants to conform. As Carina and Breahna said, it is more for fitting in and being "normal" with everyone else. There has been many times when I was overruled in a way by my friends. For example, people always proclaim their cravings for Starbucks or yogurtland, but me? I have never cared too much for coffee so Starbucks is something I can live without. There has been about maybe four occasions in my whole life that I have had some Starbucks, and each time it is only because someone treated me to it. As far as yogurtland I just never had it. When revealing this information to people, some freak out and make a big deal and actually say "what is wrong with you!" What is wrong with me? Nothing, I simply take interest in the things that I like, not what others like or what is considered "to die for." The trend of people trying to fit in is something that will always happen and changes everyday, but not everyone cares about fitting in.
ReplyDeleteJanae, I never really did understand the "Coffee-at-fifteen" craze. Maybe they drink it to "fit" in. I actually hate Coffee...I'm surprised to see I'm not the only one :)
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